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1 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 08:11
I'm going to let the faggots who browse /newpol/ at 8am decide my day

Depressed doomer alcoholic, at a bit of a crossroads. Recently fired twice in 2 months, not alcohol related just mentally ill and unable to keep it outta work. Pretty much convinced I'll never be able to hold a normal job for long, just been doordashing and odd jobs. Also, the pandemic got me down like a japanese prison (South Park reference for the real ones).

Well, after getting fired I started dating a cute little 19yo to cheer myself up. I'm 28 and wasn't gonna take it seriously. Now she seems pretty invested in me and about as loyal as a femoid can get.

So, should I attempt to trudge through the misery of getting sober so I can build a life that'll keep her around? Or do I go buy a 6-pack right now and day-drink it, because this thing I have is gonna end just like every other good thing I've ever had?

TLDR do I stay an alcoholic or make the gamble of cleaning up my act for a girl
2 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 08:35
shitposting until I have multiple replies and can tally responses
3 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 08:52
>>1
Simple answer ask her if she wants to day drink with you.
4 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 09:08
>>1
Quit drinking, get your life in order, be with the girl, be happy and at peace. It’s within your reach starting now.
5 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 09:25
>>3
Nah, I don't want that. If she wants an alcoholic boyfriend, great. I don't want an alcoholic girlfriend. I know it's hypocritical, but hey, people have different needs.
6 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 09:42
>>4
I appreciate the reply, but tbh I don't think it is. I'm 28, I tried therapy for years, I tried meds, but I was always depressed and it always affected my job. At around 25 I started drinking heavily, having barely drank before. Got hooked pretty quick because it fast-forwards the day and makes boring things enjoyable.
7 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 09:59
>>5
Question OP, are you an actual alcoholic or just one of those people with a complex about a normal amount of drinking? Day-drinking a six pack with your girl is not alcoholism.
8 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 10:16
Alright retard what you should do is try to stop bring such an autistic shit and get your shit together and go hang out with her or something also give me your discord
9 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 10:33
>>6
I’ve been depressed (diagnosed and all) for years. The meds haven’t helped much. In a last ditch I started going for a jog. Just a few km at first. Belive it or not, but it has helped me more than meds or booze. I run three times a week now - 10 km, would you believe it.
But even brisk 30 min walks every day will help if you get your pulse up. Drinking yourself numb won’t heal anything. You know in your heart you have a shot at peace of mind otherwise you wouldn’t have asked here, bro. Take care of your body and your mind will follow.
10 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 10:50
>>7
want to know about this as well op. as a 27 y.o. alcoholic myself. i would say day drink. 6pack aint shit tho for a whole day.
11 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 11:07
>>7
It's a six pack of Golden Monkey at 9.5%. Pretty much every day I drink a 6pack, either early in the day so I can hang out later or late at night after any social obligations. I'd call passing out drunk every day alcoholism.
12 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 11:23
>>9
I guess what I came here hoping to see is someone who has remained a daily drinker their whole lives and still managed to be happy, so I could get a few tips
13 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 11:40
7 months sober after 8 years of heavy drinking.
The benefits of quitting are significant. Hate to romanticise it but basically every single aspect of my existence has improved. No more anxiety, barely any depression, i exercise, stopped smoking, lost weight, started working out, looking good, feeling good, huge confidence boost (girls notice), i'm sleeping better, working better even gaming better. I'm not great at going to parties sober just yet. Covid has actually been helpful in that way. I know i've still got some work to do but i regularly see my old drinking buds while they're drunk and I'm fine. Everything i thought i couldn't do i can do now.
Give it a go OP
You've got nothing to lose
14 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 11:57
19?

You're finna fuck around n get your heart broken. Those bitches love hard for like 2 months.
15 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 12:14
I'm a lurker but will answer your question in case you're serious.

I used to be an alcoholic and would drink as much as any of my brothers. I'm not going to bore you with my war stories but one thing I will tell you is this.

No one will be able to change you. You will have to do this yourself. I was one of the lucky ones that was able to keep my job and go to rehab and changed my life. I no longer drink and I do get urges once in a while but the urge will always be there.

What keeps me away from Alcohol is that I REMIND MYSELF ALL THE BAD EXPERIENCES I got from Alcohol. All the war stories you will acquire (losing job, getting arrested, criminal records, etc) will be there.

That's why young people can't be thought to stay away from Alcohol, they haven't hit rock bottom. Keep in mind some rock bottoms are not the same. My rock bottom was losing my job, other people's rock bottom is overdosing with other drugs or losing everything and being homeless for months.

What makes everyone different is IF YOU LEARN from your rock bottoms. Some like me learned and stay away from that shit. Others...unfortunately don't and will repeat that cycle until they are either dead, ward psych or Homeless like countless.

I hope you change your life and know that alcohol and drugs is just a temporary happiness fix.
16 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 12:31
>>12
If you want your life to change without making any changes in your life I've got bad news for you anon.

If you can quit cold turkey, do it. If not, step it down slow and accept that it's what your doing, as long as you stick to a plan consistently it'll work. Either way it seems like you realize your current level of consumption doesn't match your vision for your life. Bonus points is you've got a nice girl to motivate some change, now's a good time to act.
17 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 12:48
>>14
Lol I know, that's part of why I don't really wanna clean my act up for her
18 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 13:05
>>1
Oh and another thing I forgot to add, you need to change FOR YOU. Not some fucking piece of Ass that's interested in you.

Are you going to buy a bottle of rum if she dumps your ass in a couple of months? You do it for yourself man. Not for others.
19 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 13:18
>>18
I really don't wanna do it for myself, is the problem.

I have no ambition, I'm here to enjoy hedonism til I die of probably cancer based on my genetics. I have no motivation to stop drinking besides the possibility of losing her over it. I have stopped before, been sober for months. All that happens is my depression gets worse and I start to go nuts.

When I heard the song "I'd rather have a bottle in fronta me than a frontal lobotomy" I was like yeppppppp. That. That right there.
20 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 13:27
>>19
Then you already know your fate so what the fuck are you here for? You know that's the wrong path but yet you still don't see it.

Most of my brothers that got back to drugs and alcohol is because they didn't change their lifestyles. You can't just stop. If you fat, then lose weight. If you skinny, then eat and gain muscle. Change your lifestyle routine, that's what did it for me. See yourself changing and you will like it. It will be slow but I appreciate this now than getting up at 2pm with the urge to drink because of the tremors. Room looking like shit, bottles everywhere, rent due, in debt. I'm sure you know what I;m talking about. This lifestyle sucks man, you better than that.

Out of everyone that I know from Rehab (like around 100 only me and this other jewish guy was able to stay sober. Everyone else relapse because they went back home, stopped and then they got bored and went back to do the same shit.

If you hear songs that depress you, then change that shit too. You need to remove your triggers. I don't be hearing the music that would make me want to snort cocaine and drink as before. I now workout, lift weights and do things around my apartment.
21 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 13:39
There is no potential win or positve outcome of becoming an alcoholic. Atleast with the other path, there is a chanse of a win. Sure you might fail and go through hard times again, but atleast there is the possibility of good times.
22 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 13:47
>>20
God that sounds fucking boring
23 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 13:58
>>22
How's that boring? I'm more attractive because I work out. I'm in shape. I have money in the bank. I can afford to travel later when this quarantine shit stops. I have control of my life and can do things around.

Yes, it sounds boring. I thought it was boring too. But then you haven't hit rock bottom so you need to keep drinking until that bottle hits your head to give you sense.

If you had asked me 2 years ago if I was going to be sober for this quarantine, I would had looked at you crazy. But that party is going to be over man and someone is going to have to clean your mess and that's going to be you.

The question is what kind of mess you going to make and whether you going to learn from that experience.
24 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 14:01
>>1
Clean up you act. but dont do it for a girl, do it for yourself. Currently watching both my brothers fight every day with their alcoholism and it hurts to see them go through it I feel so helpless and frustrated sometimes.

Alcohol is the most destructive substance, far worse than pills or meth or any hard drug mostly because its everywhere and legal so you cant escape it. You have to deliberately go to a crack house to get some rocks but alcohol is in every store, almost all restaurants and every gas station so you cant avoid it, wanna buy a bottle of water and some snacks while you get gas for a beach trip? Guess what you have to walk past gallons and gallons of cheap drugs and nobody will stop you from from buying because it's legal and accepted
25 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 14:11
>>12
I've spent my whole life around alcoholics(16-24 beers a day and 24-48+ a day on weekends) and I can tell you they aren't very happy people and their lives are pretty shit
26 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 14:20
>>1
not gonna lie OP i came here mainly for shitposts. you should give it a shot and try cleaning up for her sure there is a the chance shit will go sour like anything else.but you never know she might stick around and be good for you.besides if it goes to shit alcohol is always there waiting for you not like it's going to stop existing
27 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 14:29
>>1
Come work for me. I pay 1250 a week.
28 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 14:36
>>27
I appreciate it if you're not trolling, but the chances you're close enough for me to commute are virtually zero.
29 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 14:43
>>1
If you're 28 and your life is like this, it's time to pull your shit together. Not for some 19 yr old, but for yourself.

Get a decent job, taper down your drinking (yes, I've known alcoholics to live with moderate drinking), and straighten up.

I assume you live with parents or friends. If you can't keep a job and spend what money you DO have on booze, you probably can't afford rent or a mortgage (unless you were given a family home). So, save up for a couple months rent and get a cheap apartment.

A lot of people say life sucks, but it really doesn't. It's hard but not impossible.

Stop being a faggot.
30 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 15:06
>>27
Doing what?
31 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 15:37
>>29
What is the point saving for an apartment if I don't make enough money to afford rent after I burn through the savings? That's setting myself up for failure.

I think you're luckier than you realize, anon. I rarely lean on my mental illness as an excuse, but I think you're a man with two legs trying to tell a man with 1 leg how to run.
32 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 15:41
>>1
The fact that you're asking makes me think you know quitting's the right thing. I would say cut back but if you say you're an alcoholic that's probably not an option. How much do you drink? A 6 pack a day does not sound that bad (at least it's just beer) but if you drink during the day you will never amount to anything and will ultimately be less happy.
33 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 15:48
>>6
Moron. Stop the self pity. Stop drinking, thats the source of ur problems. Eat well, work out, save money and treasure that woman if she is willing to push through your bullshit, because it shows she truly loves you for YOU. And that is rare af.

FYI: Been in the exact same fucking boat with booze & drugs. Lived with it since i was 17 and always medicated with substance. Im talking from experience, hence my lack of empathy for your bullshit. Only you can make the necessary change. ONLY YOU. And if shes willing to love and support you as you evolve into a better you, never lie to her, never cheat on her, and never let her go. Live in the here and now, or you aint living at all.
Put the bottles down, faggot.
And start pumping dat iron.
34 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 15:51
>>33
But the bottle won't leave me ever, I'd die before that
35 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 15:59
>>34
Then you don't deserve to evolve, and never will.
Good luck my sad friend.
Glad i overcome adversity and turned my life around. Just a shame you will never be able to experience that for yourself.
36 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 16:01
>>34
Seriously bro, all you been doing is wasting everyone's time. There's a lot of people that have written good advice from years of experience but obviously you just a fucking faggot been watching Matrix films and think there's a pill that can make you change.

No retard. You need to work for shit. You see people with their nice houses /apartments and cars? 99% didn't spent their day on their drinking booze and getting high.

Newsflash bitch! Life is hard and you need to WORK! WORK MOFO! Not sitting on your ass all day and complain that...."yo...i got fired. Fuck life bro"

You probably one of those Antifa fucks who blame society for your shitty life when YOU are the one digging your loser hole deeper and deeper.

NO MOFO! No one is going to come to your house and help your ass. You could land a government 100k job tomorrow and I bet everything that you wont last a month because you are a fucking irresponsible fuck.

So fuck you.

Go get your 6 packs, get fucking drunk and I'll see you outside in a couple of months or years asking for change like the rest of those losers in LA waiting for their next fix. You degenerate fuck.

Guys leave this faggot alone. Obviously he's a
37 Name: Anonymous 2020-07-25 16:14
>>1
You sound like a waste of food and air, tbh. What's your life going to amount to? More consumption, a job you hate, miserable existence, shitty kids who repeat your cycle. I think it would be best if you just killed yourself, since it would be one less burden for the rest of us to feed.

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