Why do girls always go out of their BF when I talk to them.

10 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-25 23:05

>>1
Because you're a fucking ape. Give it up, dude, and surrender to the true nature of existence, Use the pain to create art and cut off your ear to show you're genuine.

11 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-25 23:22

>>8

projecting

keep outing yourself as immature lmao

12 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-25 23:39

>>4
this tbh, its difficult to find a human with more thought than an animal these days. but when i do im always surprised :D

13 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-25 23:56

Quoted by: >>14

There are a lot of skeezy guys who only talk to girls if they have a chance of fucking them. Mentioning boyfriends filters a lot of them out early.

Sounds like you give off skeezy guy vibes.

14 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 00:13

Quoted by: >>17,45

>>13
So why do they initiate conversations with me then bring up their boyfriend? If they are so obsessed with their boyfriend when aren't they with them instead of trying to tell random dudes irl about their boyfriend

15 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 00:30

Quoted by: >>16

You're a dumbass, the correct answer to that situation is

"Boyfriend? I don't see him anywhere do you? What he doesn't know wont hurt him" wink wink

Or

"Boyfriend? A real man would have put a ring in your finger, unless you're into that boytoy thing"

Or

"Oh come on, you and I both know he's just temporary"

16 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 00:47

>>15
Time to stop watching porn for a while and give your brain time to detox

17 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 01:04

Quoted by: >>18,19

>>14
They don't know you. They start talking. Your vibes make them distance things.

Not a difficult conundrum to work out.

18 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 01:20

>>17
They don't know me and yet wanted to talk to me but my vibe is the problem?

19 Name: SuperFratBoyExtreme 2021-02-26 01:37

Quoted by: >>20

>>17
Yep. Your personality is an unpleasant surprise, that's all.

20 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 01:54

Quoted by: >>21,23,47

>>19
Pretty impressive for girls who strike up conversations with me to figure that out within 2 minutes of chatting, and even more so for random people on 4ct to figure it out from text alone without knowing anything about me
It's like the WebMD of personality diagnosis

21 Name: SuperFratBoyExtreme 2021-02-26 02:11

Quoted by: >>22

>>20
You do sound like kind of a faggot tbh

22 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 02:28

Quoted by: >>24

>>21
I really value the opinions of people on anonymous online message boards who overaggreessively make unnecessary personal attacks using nasty slurs
Thanks for stopping by

23 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 02:45

Quoted by: >>25

>>20
2 minutes?` u are lost...

it can take less than 20 seconds for person to get vibes.

24 Name: SuperFratBoyExtreme 2021-02-26 03:02

>>22
You're welcome ;)

25 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 03:19

Quoted by: >>29

>>23
Can you give an example of how I might have given the wrong vibe within 20 seconds of talking about the food truck we are both in line for?

26 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 03:36

Quoted by: >>27

>>1
They're just making it crystal clear they have no interest in you.

This is a good thing. Take the hint and don't waste energy on these dead ends.

27 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 03:53

Quoted by: >>30

>>26
Why might that be necessary in the instances where they were the ones who started the conversation with me?

28 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 04:10

>>1
if you're ugly, they're telling you they're not interested. If you're good looking and confident, which it doesn't sound like you are, they are pretty insecure about their attraction and are trying to cover it up with some bullshit lol

in either case, ignore it. If you already have feelings for some of these girls, sorry champ.

29 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 04:27

Quoted by: >>32

>>25
vibe is not given. its not what u say its how u say it. general feeling of it.

we transmit shitload of data that brain picks up..some are more sensitive to it than others.
women are more sensitive usually.
intuition etc etc.

maybe u dont give bad vibes its justthe way it is.

But it sounds like that u transmit singnals without realizing . its how u focus on her and maybe smile.. or sound too engaging.

30 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 04:44

Quoted by: >>34

>>27
you may start talking to someone because they seem interesting... but then you find out they are not... simple as that. you get zoned with the 'my boyfriend' comments because they dont want you trying to put your arm around them or send them dick pics... if you had better game, the boyfriend would be only mentioned in negatives... but thats a whole other host of drama

31 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 05:01

Some do it because they don’t want to feel guilty talking to guy they may or may not like

Or just trying to show there taken in a passive way

32 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 05:18

Quoted by: >>33,35

>>29
"Sound too engaging" wtf. So if I seem like I'm genuinely interested in what we are talking about and I actually care about what she has to say, that can be a bad thing to?
I really think interacting with people is more trouble than it's worth. When just talking with another person becomes a "science" it's time to step back and wonder how much of this is about stroking our own egos

33 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 05:35

Quoted by: >>36

>>32
if youre talking to a chick to get in her pants, it will be a science, or an art... if you just want to have a convo with the bitch... why do you care if they have a boyfriend... if it doesnt kill the convo keep talking...

34 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 05:52

>>30
So super preemptive, unwarranted attempt to prevent any potential flirting, with no indication that the other person is even interested, is more "normal" than waiting to reject advances if/when they actually happen?
Maybe I'm outof touch with society. Maybe I'm the weird one

35 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 06:09

Quoted by: >>37

>>32
You may be genuinely interested, while at the same time giving off totally different vibes. Body language, eye contact, signs of subconscious nervousness... these are all communicated in a couple of seconds.

People on the autistic spectrum have difficulty judging these things. Are you aware of how you come across just by text alone?

36 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 06:26

Quoted by: >>43,48

>>33
Because it implies she think I'm going to hit on her which annoys me because:
1. She's stroking her own ego
2. Forces me to have to now verbally acknowledge her boyfriend like a trained dog at the risk of otherwise seen as actually interested in her if I ignore it

37 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 06:43

Quoted by: >>42,43

>>35
I'm being more honest than the larping regulars on 4ct can ever be, even with themselves, and the "it must be something wrong with you, never anyone else" attitude here doesn't necessarily add weight to what they have to say

38 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 07:00

Quoted by: >>39

>>1
Don't worry about it you are overthinking it (probably because you are autistic not even kidding get that checked out).

39 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 07:17

Quoted by: >>40

>>38
How do nonautistic normal people have conversations? Act overly enthusiastic about whatever the topic is with dramatically widened eyes, going "i know right?!?!" and laughing just a bit too hard?

40 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 07:34

Quoted by: >>41

>>39
That's not it

41 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 07:51

>>40
Enlighten me cause that's how the "normal" conversations I've seen go

42 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 08:08

Quoted by: >>44

>>37

All of your interactions with girls have had one person in common. So two questions:
If you notice clear trends in how they progress, what's a logical root cause?
Why are you getting so defensive at the suggestion that it's you?

43 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 08:25

>>36
honestly... why do you care if bitches may or may not be stroking their ego by talking to you... why do you care of they have a boyfriend... maybe the dude will be more interesting and you can have conversation with him... and if shes bitching about the dude she may be looking for an 'upgrade'.

>>37
to be fair... this is 4ct /lounge/... we are all retarded faggots here and 9/10 we are the problems in our own life, and if we are not its shit we cannot control... cant MAKE them not talk about shit they want to, you can either go with it, try and channel it, or just walk away.

44 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 08:42

Quoted by: >>46

>>42
I have also had interactions that ended up with me being in a relationship with the girl or at least banging them, as stated in my OP, so your attempt to paint me as an autistic incel has already failed. Not sure if I should care about what else you have to say. What do you think?

45 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 08:59

>>14
What the fuck language are you talking?

46 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 09:16

Quoted by: >>49

>>44
I'm not painting you as anything of the sort. But your evasion of the questions is noted.

waahh I don't care what you think you don't know me I'm super cool and done sex in a woman

Yeah, that's why you posted this thread on fucking /lounge/

47 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 09:16

>>20
We know EVERYTHING about you, retard.

48 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 09:33

>>36
you should say, oh yeah, ive got a gf but shes not here

49 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 09:50

Quoted by: >>50

>>46

tried to establish dominance in the conversation by putting the other person on the defensive
gets called out for it

"I-I never tried to do that..."
Not only did you try to make assumptions about me, now you are dismissing what I've said as lies, just to continue your verbal berating which I can only presume to be a poor attempt of gaining a sense of power in an otherwise disappointing existence
I hope things work out for you eventually

50 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 10:07

Quoted by: >>51

>>49
dude... i think i understand... wait till i tell my boyfriend about this, he loves things like this...

51 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 10:24

Quoted by: >>54

>>50
Is resorting to sarcasm your usual way of exiting the conversation or is there more?

52 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 10:43

Quoted by: >>53

"ello love what brings a pretty girl like you here"

Jesus Christ op please tell me you've never actually said this?

53 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 10:53

>>52
No I prefer asking their name without offering my own then proceed to interrogate them about what they are doing here

54 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 11:00

Quoted by: >>55

>>51
naw totally not, im was hoping that would help you realize that you come off as pompous, know it all... you came to /lounge/ for answers and your rejecting even the possibility that you may be to forward, and seem more interesting than you actually are in conversations. chicks will zone you because they are preempting and it is totally warranted because you dont seem like you could take 'no' as an answer... this conversation with you is tedious... like fuck my dude... i hope im being trolled and you actually arent like this IRL...

55 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 11:10

Quoted by: >>56

>>54
More assumptions without basis, with some unnecessary personal attacks sprinkled throughout
Yep reads like a typical 4ct post to me

56 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 11:16

>>55
yo dude, you have a good night, good luck with your problem.

57 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-26 12:48

Nobody irl knows this but my sister and I had sex for years when we were kids and teens. Both married now and she still sucked my dick when we visited the parents at Christmas.

58 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-27 23:35

Quoted by: >>59

Chinese men call women over 25 "left over women". Japanese men call women over 25 "christmas cake". Some white men refuse to date women over the age of 25. Over the last 2 months, I've spoken to about 60 girls, many of the girls who were aged 27 to 29 kept telling me that they were single, they looked sad, lonely and depressed. and the girls who were aged 30 to 35 refused to tell me their age at first, they felt very insecure about it, but they told me their Chinese astrology sign, and so I could tell their age, once they told me their Chinese astrology sign. They were all single too. They've all spent 1 year completely isolated and alone now, because of the lockdowns, quarantine, house arrest. I think maybe it's difficult for them to find a white boyfriend after the age of 25 (maybe?). In any case, they were definitely single, it seemed like no white man cares about them.

59 Name: Anonymous 2021-02-27 23:38

>>58
To be honest, I didn't think that white men were this harsh and this severe, but after speaking to many white girls aged 27 to 29, (and seeing that all of them were single and alone and feeling depressed), I'm starting to think that maybe they are uninterested in girls aged over 25 (maybe). Then the girls aged 30 to 35 refused to even tell me their age, and they all looked shocked and insecure, every time I asked them their age, so I think they do have a complex over it. But I didn't mind their age, I was still interested in talking witht them, and I liked some of them too. I wanted to know their Chinese astrology sign, but it also reveals their age at the same time.