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Girlfriend is fat and retarded.

2 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 02:30
>>1
just let her fuck her dealer, she will cool off after it
3 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 02:48
>>1
"just let me get things in order again"
she's pretty much fucking someone on the side. she needs to be satisfied before talking to a beta fuck like you OP.
4 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 03:04
>>1
She is not interested in you anymore anon.... remember the golden rule is simple, if a girl liked you, she will make time for you
5 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 03:21
>>1
Offer to visit her
she accepts?
everything is cool, and she is just stressed out
she declines?
start looking at other mothers daughters
6 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 03:38
>>5
agree if she says no something is up.
7 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 03:55
>>4
this
8 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 04:12
>>1
Fuck other bitches, if she breaks you off a peice take it. You need to quit being a bitch. Fucking other bitches will make you less needy you needy little bitch. Then not being the cuck u are will make her want you. Just don't go back to being a cuck or she will walk on you. My suggestion dump the sharty hoe and go on a year long adventure to Alaska. Work a fishing boat and learn to be a man you dumb cuck
9 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 04:29
>>1
I couldnt help telling her about what I thought, feelings and all that.
Why did you phrase it as if it was a bad thing ? Honest communication is usually a good idea in relationships. What did you have to say that you think you shouldn't have said ?
10 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 04:46
>>1
How far away do you live?
11 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 05:03
>>5
Jokes aside. This.
If she truly loves you, she'll welcome a visit. If she declines, sorry to say, bro. She's fucking someone else.
12 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 05:20
OP here

She told me, on one side she really wants but on the other she knows she doesnt because she has too many problems in her head, her job and all other things, that she is becoming crazy due to that and knows she cant do anything else. That she wants everything to normalize and getting normal again before.

>>9

Everyone always says things like "you sound like a pussy if you are telling her your feelings"

Anyway, now she knows I really want to be with her, told her about all our time together, nice things, that she had other problems in the past and somehow we managed to survive after that and all those things.

But right now I think I shouldnt write her more, she knows what I want, she expects me to wait, but at the same time I cant wait for too long either. In fact, this waiting is killing me and cant sleep well. I dont feel like meeting other girls either, Im not in the mood.

She is working mon-sat until 22:00, and all that she does when arriving at home is shower, dinner and straight to bed. Sundays are her only day free and she is using them for fixing all these things.

I know, Im not on her priority list anymore. At least for now and thats what she told me, to let her normalize everything.

So ignoring her, not texting, not asking anything, and just wait.. could be the right move. That way maybe she starts realizing Im wont be there always and she can lose me.
13 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 05:37
>>1
I have a similar problem with my gf, but in my case its sex. She's too busy and almost always tired for sex, while other girls pretty much throwing themselves at me, but I have to ignore them because I'm not a cheater. I'm lost
14 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 05:54
>>5
yeah. it's 100% this.
15 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 06:11
the last thing you should do is keep messaging her. I know you want to but thats only gonna push you away from her and maybe annoy her. I was in a somewhat similar situation recently. If she really wants you shell make the effort but if youre unsure then give her space and if thing dont work out in the end it wasnt for you. sucks but its true
16 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 06:28
>>12
i can't wait for too long
dude it has been 2 days... holy shit, you're such a fucking loser.
if she takes more than a week to solve her shit, then look for other options, but losing your mind over a bitch that could use you as an escape from her problems is retarded. grow a fuckin pair.
17 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 06:45
>>12
Of she's not making you a priority in her life, then she doesn't deserve to be a priority in yours.

She's "waiting for everything to be right", which will probably never happen. This almost sounds like a convoluted "it's not you, it's me" type of response. She just doesn't want to be the one to ditch you. She's keeping you ready in the wings in case she wants you, regardless of your feelings.

Leave her be for now. Start getting in the mindset that you'll be moving on from her. It sucks, I know. Take small steps to investigate other women, get ready to put yourself out there again. There's always a chance this can work out down the road, but for now it seems like an exercise in futility to expect her to reciprocate your feelings.
18 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 07:02
>>15
Im doing this. Earlier I was thinking in waiting a few days and see if she decided to write me, but .. I think it would be better just to wait.

>>16
I meant this seems to be more than 1 month. So Im not going to wait that long, Im just fearing everything will disappear if we wait that much time, but in any case that would be her choice. She knows what I think so I cant do anything else.
Its being hard because this conversation started on thursday and "finished" on sunday. Since then and having to wait for hours for her replies, things are really affecting me more than expected.
19 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 07:19
>>17
This.
20 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 07:36
>>1
you can't spend your time to come visit me because I'm busy
you can't inconvenience yourself because seeing you would inconvenience me
I want to see you but I don't want to see you

You've made the best choice not to contact her at all, and I mean at all, unless she contacts you first. When she does contact you, make sure you let her be the one to influence the ongoing conversation. However, if she wants to be a contradictory, nonsensical retard about all this, you need to be exploring other options and finding other things to be interested in (human or otherwise).

Having backup plans and holding out for Plan A to work is the best option, just don't become emotionally involved with anyone else and your defense against her dark arts will be justified. Either way, stop wasting time, my nigga.
21 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 07:53
>>18
Its being hard because this conversation started on thursday and "finished" on sunday. Since then and having to wait for hours for her replies, things are really affecting me more than expected.
take the hint, she's over you. don't waste your time.
22 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 08:09
>>12
Not to sound like an asshole OP but there's no other way to sugar coated for you since you will always try to cling on to things thinking differently........

She's just not into you. She probably likes you but she definitely has someone on the side.

To be honest, a guy like me would be like....fuck that bitch and ignore her until she responds...HOWEVER...she just MIGHT NOT EVEN CARE and not talk to you again....which for me it would be fine

Problem is that you when faggots like you face that fact.....you motherfuckers think that there's a WAY for the girl to be INTERESTED again and there's not....
23 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 08:11
>>17
your bf/gf has issues and doesn't want to bring that stress into your relationship? what an inconsiderate cunt!

you're a self-centered asshole.
24 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 08:28
Yes, right now I dont have any place in her life. She made it clear, she telling me all those things about how much she still likes me and wants to talk about everything after she normalizes her life its something I know it wont work.

Im starting to think this is over, at least I know I tried. I told her I wanted to fight for this because many reasons, so in any case if this ends I know I did everything I could.

>>20

And yes, Im not going to write because it could reach a point where she thinks things like
Here is he again, everytime I look the cellphone
And growing tired. If she decides to write I hope it will be good and for trying to fix things with me.

When I first met her, she did something similar. She was overwhelmed too because a job and other things and "disappeared" for months. We werent anything yet, just talking here and there. She reappeared around december telling me she was sorry and I didnt deserve that. Started pursuing me and convincing me to meet, and all that.
Thats my only hope, that something like that ends up happening (of course sooner than months), and she reacts in time.
25 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 08:44
>>12
Please don't listen to the incels here. Anyone who believes feelings are for losers is clearly less than human.
It's a hard situation to navigate. My advice is not to get pushy, but to show her you want to be part of her life ; if you write to her, make sure it's not demanding, that nothing in it feels like she HAS to answer you, because if she gets overwhelmed easily as you describe, that'll drive her away quickly. Maybe suggest coming to her place next weekend or the next, making clear - though maybe not explicitly stating, though that's your call - that you'd be here for moral support, and not as a drain on her resources or an obligation.
You're the only one here who can know how sincere she is about the whole thing ; but if she is, that's probably what she's hoping for.
26 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 09:02
>>4
100% this
Ain't no point in fagging for a person that isn't a whole perception into the reality of what may be into what will create from nothing but forever thinking about who they became until then
27 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 09:19
Just be patient, stay in touch and be her emotionally support. Do your part to save money and make the meet ups easier
28 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 09:36
>>25
This is the only good piece of advice here.
29 Name: SuperFratBoyExtreme 2020-09-08 09:53
>>12
redditspacing
You deserve everything coming to you faggot.
30 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 10:10
>>25
Knowing her, she is being totally sincere. I know how much she suffers and becomes crazy with this. 20 days ago she had to stay at home because she was suspect of getting covid, and she spent all days sleeping and not knowing how to handle it. As you say, she gets overwhelmed very easily.
I already told her everything I want to say, I know she wants to normalize everything and so, but at the same time I cant help thinking everything is already destroyed.

At first I thought to keep supporting her, but Ive been doing that many times and I know when she is not in the mood, so its better to not write her anymore unless she decides to text, ask something or things like that. If she decides to disappear again then... I know theres nothing more I can do.
31 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 10:27
>>24
Sounds to me like you're expecting, not hoping. You're spending more time trying to convince yourself to wait, than you are spending convincing yourself to move on in the meantime.

This is the adult world, anon, you either sit and wait for the conclusion or you create your own conclusions. Find an enriching human, group of humans, or hobby to immerse yourself in during your wait. Seek suggestions on that, instead of how to deal with the cunt who has no time for you.

I suggest getting into Warhammer 40k, and army painting. It's, truly, an amazing hobby with great people. You'll fit in.
32 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 10:44
>>25
You sound like a faggot. Clearly you bad with women. You been watching too much movies my friend.

OP. She's not into you faggot. She's probably getting drilled a new asshole by a nigger while you on 4ct crying like a faggot while munching to your twinkie you fat fuck (or skinny pencil neck geek).

Ho left you for a reason. Most likely cause you a sentimental faggot.

Get off the computer, workout and build some muscles and move on faggot. That bitch don't want your cuck fagot ass bitch. Bitch ass motherfuckers.
33 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 11:17
>>25
Worst advice ever, you're either a soyboy or a woman.
34 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 11:51
>>1
Too much drama, just ignore her and get another girl.
35 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 12:24
At first I wanted to think that she was still texting me, saying things like
"Of course I still like you and I really like being with you" or "When I get things in order I want to meet and talk"
It was because she still has some interest on me, as I met other girls who if they decide to finish something they dont give any explanations or hopes like this one.

But right now.. the more time it passes, the more I think she wont be there. Im still hoping she reacts on time, but as I said before I cant be waiting for months for her.

And no, I cant get another girl, I have other friends and I used to have tinder (not many matches either), but I just cant think on other girls right now. Im just try to keep doing my life, try to keep going out and workout little by little again.

Its being so hard because Ive invested SO much in this girl since the very beginning, its not like a random girl from tinder or a hookup. Thats why Im still fighting on her
36 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 12:58
>>30
There's a trick to supporting that kind of personality. She obviously feels pressure much more than the average person ; that tends to go with high expectations about yourself, causing disproportionate amounts of guilt when you fall short. That she felt guilty about disappearing and told you so signals she likely obsesses about what the right thing to do would be in your situation ; so any contact that you have with her that demands something of her, implicitly or explicitly, demands a lot of energy. If you're really into her and need validation, and she knows you need it or overestimate how much you need it, it'll be hard for you both to make this relationship work. If you can keep it more casual for a while however - not only in your communications but within yourself - there's every chance she'll feel more at ease with you, and start thinking of you less as a chore and more a welcome escape from duty.
37 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 13:33
38 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 14:06
>>36
As an addendum - since the relationship between you two is probably high stakes for her, and she feels guilty about not being able to give you the time she thinks you deserve and need, you should avoid talking about the relationship and expectations for a while, or she'll unconsciously associate talking to you with feelings of guilt and inadequacy. That is the main thing you need to avoid.
39 Name: SuperFratBoyExtreme 2020-09-08 14:40
>>35
SHE DOESNT WANT YOU FAGGOT. GET A FUCKING CLUE!!!!!!

THERE'S NO FUCKING SOLUTION!!!!! IF SHE WANTED YOU SHE WOULD LOOK FOR YOU WHICH CLEARLY SHES NOT DOING!!!!

FUCKING KEK
40 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 15:14
>>38
So, what about not talking with her and leaving her space for solving her problems and all her issues? I still think thats the best option instead of writing here and there and waiting for a reply.

She already knows what I want, knows everything about the relationship and its all on her hands. She will be the one to decide if she wants to react and save everything for us or just leaving it and forgetting me.

Theres one thing Im 100% sure. I never accepted and I wont accept a friendship relationship with an exgf. Once its over, its over.
41 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 15:47
>>1
What you need to do is focus on yourself. Make subtle changes, start dressing better, talk to other women, and hint at this when you talk to her

Women want to follow, not lead

Work is just an excuse, she's being distant because you're not acting like the captain of the ship
42 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 16:21
>>35
you're better off single than dealing with this shit forever. stay friends if you really want, but no one should be treated the way she's treating you.
43 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 16:54
>>40
She's acting this way because she's not confident you're her best option anymore

She's going through a phase of testing out her other options (read: other dicks), that's why she's acting distant

You need to get your shit together, get a direction in life if you don't have one, and start acting like a leader
44 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 17:28
How long have you two been “together”? This is a huge part of the equation here as well.
45 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 18:01
>>36
This x 1000
The other faggots in this thread don’t know shit about real relationships
46 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 18:35
>>40
She will be the one to decide if she wants to react and save everything for us or just leaving it and forgetting me.
See, that's what I'm talking about. She knows this. I guarantee she thinks about it. And the more she does, the more she associates you with feelings of guilt. You don't need to cut communications ; you need to communicate in ways that don't demand answers. Share some part of your day that would make her smile, things you learned or heard about that would resonate with her ; don't ask "so how was your day ? How are you doing ?" or any implicating questions.
And I won't argue if you think it's a bad idea for you to be friends with an ex, it's your life. My closest friend for the past 10 years was my girlfriend in college, but I understand it doesn't work for everyone.
47 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 19:09
>>1
Shes. Just. Not. That. Into. You.

When a random cock comes along at a convenient time for her, she'll be bouncing away at it.

Dump her and move on. She'll either change her tune (lol) or you'll go fuck someone who isn't impossible to see.
48 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 19:16
>>46
I always did that with her, but this time when this happened I wanted her to know what I thought about everything. Its her choice, its her moving me apart so she knows she is the only one who can decide what to do.

When we were fine I knew I had to talk with her that way, not asking or expecting too many things from her. Right now for example one of her biggest "problems" is that she argued with her best friend.
"She was always there for me and Ive been 1 month out because all those problems I had and I really need to fix these things first, my shitty job doesnt let me do anything I just want to normalize my life again"

So I know Im not her priority, she has others, like her parents, job, her girlfriends and her sick grandmother. Thats all. Now its her turn. If she wants to recover what we had its her choice, I cant insist more on her or ask her "when" is this going to happen.
49 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 19:40
>>1
Seems like she's not into being in a relationship right now. Over a month of not seeing each other is some bullshit.
Oh well, drop the relationship and move on. And stop telling her how you feel, she's clearly not into you dumping your emotions all over her.
50 Name: Anonymous 2020-09-08 20:01
>>48
Aight, I don't mean to patronize you. So what is the problem ? Is the situation becoming too hard to handle because it's painful for you to be waiting for her ? Are you, in turn, obsessing about it ? It sounds like you're doing the right things, although it's probably not a good idea to consider her words a promise - there's a lot of ways this could go.
51 Name: ~CowShit~ 2020-09-08 20:18
>>12
So ignoring her, not texting, not asking anything, and just wait.. could be the right move.
HHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA

Are you 12 or deperately trying to lose any woman?

Listen and listen well you fucking faggot. If you want to keep a girl, no matter what kind of relationship you have or want, you keep the engagement rate going. You interact regularly or you're out. Unless you are into her talking to other dudes in the same light as you. Doesn't have to be a constant nagging and can even be every other day for a short bit, but you have to be there when she is up for a normal conversation that keeps her interest going. Just keep showing that you can have fun / interesting conversations and you're set.

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